Friday, November 20, 2009

nazi earrings

ell
can someone explains to me why the hell a 13 years old girl will want to buy an earrings like those: NAZI symbol, playboy magazine symbol, nike symbol, jaguar symbol, ... etc?????????????

these earrings are sold in 13 shop @ carrefour
it's ignorance or lack of responsibility from the shop owners to sell these stuff to kids

Thursday, October 29, 2009

google, what's next?



once a speaker in a seminar i attended said: later on; governments and country borders will gone and they will be only GOOGLE

tedata theft


a friend sent me this link, it's a photography competition held by TEData
coool, right?
Absolutely NOT
when i checked the competition rules, i found out some "pleasant" ones:
يحق لشركة "نهضة مصر للصحافة والإعلام" استخدام الصور بأى شكل كان بعد تلقيها من المتسابقين دون أن يكون عليها أى التزامات.. ولن يتم إعادة الصور إلى المشاركين بعد انتهاء المسابقة.

يحق لشركة "نهضة مصر للصحافة والإعلام" تعديل أى شرط من شروط المسابقة بدون إبداء أية أسباب وفى أى وقت تراه .

this is Unethical, it means i take a picture send it to a competition, probably don't win a thing and then they 'll use my picture without the need of my permission in any and every medium they want !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
there's an invention in the world these days called "حقوق الملكية الفكرية / copyright"
COME ON!!!!!!!!!!!!
this organization is a governmental one, they should be the one to obey the law not to break it.

what if someone, took my picture put his name or watermark on it and sell it online or offline, how they will prevent that from happening
selling your picture online is very profitable if you have the quality pictures, check the list

We have to stop apply for similar Unfair terms, don't participate,unless they change the rules and keep your copyright over your product
The thing is it's a common behavior for governmental organizations like the water, electricity and gas providers, they always make you sign unfair contract "عقود اذعان"
they put the rules, you have to accept because there are no other providers
BUT online photography contest tooo? HELL NO
there are other thousands alternatives
want to be known, win prizes and have unlimited exposure upload your pictures to flickr or similar sites, participate in honorable competitions.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

دستور يا اسيادنا

فى قعدة لطيفة مع شوية بنات لطيفة اتكلمنا فى موضوع لطيف
البنات دول علاقتهم بالسياسة تنحصر فى مادة حقوق الانسان اللى بياخدوها فى الكلية (اذن العلاقة بين السياسة وحقوق الانسان واضحة جدا ) ده اولا
ثانيا الموضوع اللطيف هو ليه مفيش تمثيل قبطى فى اى انتخابات
المهم انا قلتلهم طبعا دى غلطتنا علشان مش بنرشح ولا نترشح
فردوا بان ماهو اصلا ماينفعش يبقى رئيس الجمهورية قبطى
انا: ليه يا جماعة؟
هن: علشان الدستور بيقول كده
انا: الدستور مااشترطش ديانة المرشح
هن: لا احنا اخدنا فى مادة حقوق الانسان فى الكلية ان المرشح لازم يبقى مسلم
انا: يا جماعة الدستور مش بيقول كده
هن: يا بنتى احنا اخدناها فى الكلية، انتى بتكلمى فى ايه
طبعا الموضوع ده وجعنى جدا جدا
بعد البحث والتقصى وصلت للصفحة دى: دستور جمهورية مصر العربية على موقع بوابة الحكومة الالكترونية
وفى الباب الخامس: نظام الحكم
الفصل الاول: رئيس الدولة
مادة(75): يشترط فيمن ينتخب رئيسا للجمهورية أن يكون مصريا من أبوين مصريين، وأن يكون متمتعا بالحقوق المدنية والسياسية، وإلا تقل سنه عن اربعين سنة ميلادية.
اهه اهه ادى الدستور على موقع الحكومة ماجبش سيرة ديانة المرشح
المهم رجعت لواحدة من مجموعة النقاش ووريتها الصفحة فردت بان الكتاب بتاع الكلية مابيقولش كده
طبعا انا مش عايزة ارشح نفسى ولا حاجة انا بس كبرت فى دماغى انى اوصل لمصدر المعلومة
السؤال بقى: اى الكتابين اصح: الدستور على موقع الحكومة ولا كتاب حقوق الانسان اللى فى الكلية؟
هل ممكن يتم تزوير الدستور فى كتاب جامعى على اعتبار ان ماحدش حيقرا الدستور والناس حتكبر دماغها؟
هل الطلبة اللى درسوا الكتاب ده ممكن يتغير عندهم فكرة فضلوا يذاكروها سنة بحالها؟
والاهم: هل الطلبة الاقباط وصلهم احساس ناس كتير يهمها تزرعه فيهم: انتوا ضيوف وخواجات؟ ولا حاربوا الاحساس ده داخلهم
على اى الاحوال وفى الختام: اتمنى ان اللى يروح ينتخب فى اى انتخابات ايا كانت يبقى على اساس معيار الكفاءة مش اى حاجة تانية
وبرضه مساء الخييييييييييييير يا مصر

Sunday, September 13, 2009

مساء الخييييييييييييييييييييييييير

ليه مش حيبقى عندنا مفاعل نووى ولا حتدخل اى جامعة من جامعاتنا قائمة اهم 500 جامعة فى العالم
علشان حالة التحشيش العام اللى بقينا فيها
مثال:
امبارح رحت لنجار علشان ييجى يصلح لنا حاجات فى البيت
وانا عمالة اشرحله الموقف وايه المطلوب
فاجأنى بالآتى:
- مش انتى بنت الدكتور؟
- ايوة
- هو مش باين ليه؟
- (اتساع فى حدقة العين - فتح الفم لآخره - كتم الصوت: باختصار تنحت)
- هو الله يرحمه ولا ايه؟
- (ردى عليه تكون من كلمة واحدة) 2001
- ياااه ده من مدة يعنى

طبعا النجار التايه دة لا جه ولا صلح ولا نيلة
ملاحظات مهمة جدا لتوضيح الصورة:
- النجار ده فى شارعنا
- لازم نعدى عليه على الاقل 5 مرات كل اسبوع (اى فرد من الاسرة) فى طريقنا لاى حتة
- بعد وفاة ابويا انا وامى واختى كنا كلنا لابسين اسود طبعا لشهوووووور

بمعنى: الراجل ده اخد 8 سنين علشان يلاحظ ان جار له اتوفى
واخيرا: مساء الخيييييييييييييييييييييييييييير يا مصر

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

I wanna be numb

Numb - Pet Shop Boys



Don't wanna hear the news
What's going on
What's coming through
I don't wanna know
Don't wanna know
Just wanna hide away
Make my my escape
I want the world
To leave me alone
Feels like I feel too much
I've seen too much
For a little while
I want to forget

I wanna be numb
I don't wanna feel this pain no more
Wanna lose touch
I just wanna go and lock the door
I don't wanna think
I don't wanna feel nothing
I wanna be numb
I just wanna be
Wanna be numb

Can't find no space to breathe
World's closing in
Right on me now
Well that's how it feels
That's how it feels
Too much light
There's too much sound
Wanna turn it off
Wanna shut it out
I need some relief
Think that like I think too much
I've seen too much
There is just too much
Thought in my head

I wanna be numb
I don't wanna feel this pain no more
Wanna lose touch
I just wanna go and lock the door
I don't wanna think
I don't wanna feel nothing
I wanna be numb
I just wanna be
Wanna be
Taken away from all the madness
Need to escape
Escape from the pain
I'm out on the edge
About to lose my mind
For a little while
For a little while
I wanna be numb

I don't wanna think
I don't wanna feel nothing
I wanna be numb
I don't wanna feel this pain no more
Wanna lose touch
I just wanna go and lock the door
I don't wanna think
I don't wanna feel nothing
I wanna be numb
I just wanna be
Wanna be numb
I just wanna be
Wanna be numb

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

وطن تانى


الوقت متأخر
وما عدش ينفع..
طول عمرك بتيجى على نفسك
وتسافر.. وتبعد
لكن بترجع..
إشمعنى دلوقتى
عايز تروح ما تجيش..
وكل ما أقولك مالك..؟
تقول.. مفيش
هو أنت لسه بتفكر
ودلوقتى
بعد ما بقيت بتنهج من سلمتين
رايح تدور على وطن تانى فين..
فاكر الزمن واقف ما بيتحركش
بص ف تاريخ ميلادك
واحسب سنك..
استنيت ليه لما كبرت
والحزن بقى أكبر منك..
كان ف إيدك الورق
ومستوفى كل الشروط
فضلت تحسبها بقلبك
وأقطعت الورق
وحلفت والله ما هموت
غير ف حضن الحبايب
طول عمرك فى الحساب خايب
الوقت متأخر
وما عدش ينفع ندم..
جواز سفر محترم
كان كفيل..
يحمى طفلك الجميل..
من كل تجار الفساد..
يا أخى كنت اعملها
عشان خاطر الأولاد..
جواز سفر محترم يا عم
كان أهم من كل اللى كتبته
واللى لسه ها تكتبه
قلتلك دول وحوش ما بيرحموش
ولا ها يبطلوا يكدبوا
الوقت متأخر
والله يكون ف عون اللى يقع
ف البلدى ويقول أنا محتاج..
معلش يا ابنى
لا عندى صبر ولا ف إيدى العلاج

بطاطا بطاطا
كتب على سلامة
فى المصرى اليوم

حالة القسوة المنتشرة حاليا (قسوة الوطن) لكن حتى الآن لا استطيع استيعابها
كيف يصل انسان لهذا الاحساس بكره الوطن؟؟؟؟؟؟؟؟

Friday, July 31, 2009

Work moral


At work something happened that made me think about writing this post
2 months earlier a colleague left work and another one was hired to fill her place
since day 1, all the rest of staff agreed on one thing
she's a very difficult person to deal with
it was a personal opinions not related to work
no one was happy doing the smallest conversation with her
bit by bit, her work attitudes turned to be the worst ever seen
doesn't want to help anyone, answering to the superior and other with tone full of IMPUDENCE
her first and always answer to anyone is: why me? it's not in my job description or I'm not going to do IT
no one was actually judge her work or her efficiency, it was all about personal stuff

yesterday talking with one of the staff (a real good decent person), she raised her voice and things turned to be a fight
each went to the chairman office and he took a decision in a millisecond
"I'll let her go today"
and he did

in less then an hour, all the staff were working on how to replace her
downloading CVs and calling people to set interviews before even she left the office

the moral is when you are bad in dealing with your colleagues, no one will give you a second chance. people will be happy to let you go.
the thing that keeps pumping up in my mind is that i was her superior and i was the only one who judge her work, and i didn't share this with all the rest, only with my superior
but all the rest of the staff judge her personality only and they were all agreed that she has to go
most of all the chairman who didn't took much time to take his decision, in fact he already made his decision before she entered his office
and for him the problem wasn't about the level of efficiency but the bad communication and cooperation between her and the rest

build strong work connections with your colleagues and be ready to help when you can if you can, because that's how you earn stocks in the market of your company

Monday, July 13, 2009

Silver Metallic people

Colors are one major tool humans use to express themselves, thoughts, ideas, entities, ... etc
In Egypt we are bad with colors.
walking in the streets, you will find one color dominates, and it's not a nice color at all ...
SILVER
the street lamps are silver/black, the new big veolia trash cans are silver, lot of shops sign, TVs, receivers, shopping cart in carrefour, shelves in malls, ...

stop at any mobile shop and step 2 steps back and take a whole look at the shop window, it's ALL SILVER plus some black/ metallic
take a look at the online store for elshennawy

have you noticed the cars: the new models are all in silver, when asking a car salesman: what are the colors available for this mode? silver of course and gold and red and silver and.. ehh white and silver and gold and ah ... aha the black will cost you more of course

when obama visited egypt, elMasry elYoum wrote this title:
«القاهرة» باللون البرونزى.. «أوباما جاى»

It's not really bronze it's silver
apparently we use silver to describe the "new" "modern" "rich" "high tech"
check any gadget and see the available colors: SILVER metalic
even airports, check this, (It's a client)

BUT WHY?
why the extensive use of the silver color to express the modern, high tech
in the 70s when the space movies disease started, it was all in silver: the space ships, the equipments, the buildings, and of course there were other colors used but not to describe the heroes of the movies
as usual we copied the idea and then stopped, the 70's era ended and we still stand on the same point
modern, hightech= silver
THEY (fi Europe we eldwal elmotakadema) evolved to the multicolor era, space movies are in colors now as you can see posters of some of (2008/2009)
but still other movies in silver
check the whole list of the space movies

the point is the lack of imagination status that is controled the society, i don't want to have a silver mobile, silver TV, silver receiver, silver car, i want colors but i can't simply because there is not any.
it's how a bad taste or one taste dominates.

STOP THE SILVER INVATION

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

نربى الكلاب فى الشقة والأطفال فى الشارع

ونظل نربى الكلاب فى الشقة والفراخ فى المنور والأطفال فى الشارع، وندخل القرن الواحد والعشرين من ناحية بتاع العصير، وينشغل العالم بالطاقة الذرية وننشغل بالبطاقة التموينية..
برضه جلال عامر فى المصرى اليوم

Friday, June 5, 2009

Obama's speech

This post is to record a moment in history: I think the speech is too good to be true
only time will tell, was it true or some political maneuver



I am honored to be in the timeless city of Cairo, and to be hosted by two remarkable institutions. For over a thousand years, Al-Azhar has stood as a beacon of Islamic learning, and for over a century, Cairo University has been a source of Egypt's advancement. Together, you represent the harmony between tradition and progress. I am grateful for your hospitality, and the hospitality of the people of Egypt. I am also proud to carry with me the goodwill of the American people, and a greeting of peace from Muslim communities in my country: assalaamu alaykum.

We meet at a time of tension between the United States and Muslims around the world - tension rooted in historical forces that go beyond any current policy debate. The relationship between Islam and the West includes centuries of co-existence and cooperation, but also conflict and religious wars. More recently, tension has been fed by colonialism that denied rights and opportunities to many Muslims, and a Cold War in which Muslim-majority countries were too often treated as proxies without regard to their own aspirations. Moreover, the sweeping change brought by modernity and globalization led many Muslims to view the West as hostile to the traditions of Islam.

Violent extremists have exploited these tensions in a small but potent minority of Muslims. The attacks of September 11th, 2001 and the continued efforts of these extremists to engage in violence against civilians has led some in my country to view Islam as inevitably hostile not only to America and Western countries, but also to human rights. This has bred more fear and mistrust.

So long as our relationship is defined by our differences, we will empower those who sow hatred rather than peace, and who promote conflict rather than the cooperation that can help all of our people achieve justice and prosperity. This cycle of suspicion and discord must end.

I have come here to seek a new beginning between the United States and Muslims around the world; one based upon mutual interest and mutual respect; and one based upon the truth that America and Islam are not exclusive, and need not be in competition. Instead, they overlap, and share common principles - principles of justice and progress; tolerance and the dignity of all human beings.

I do so recognizing that change cannot happen overnight. No single speech can eradicate years of mistrust, nor can I answer in the time that I have all the complex questions that brought us to this point. But I am convinced that in order to move forward, we must say openly the things we hold in our hearts, and that too often are said only behind closed doors. There must be a sustained effort to listen to each other; to learn from each other; to respect one another; and to seek common ground. As the Holy Koran tells us, "Be conscious of God and speak always the truth." That is what I will try to do - to speak the truth as best I can, humbled by the task before us, and firm in my belief that the interests we share as human beings are far more powerful than the forces that drive us apart.

Part of this conviction is rooted in my own experience. I am a Christian, but my father came from a Kenyan family that includes generations of Muslims. As a boy, I spent several years in Indonesia and heard the call of the azaan at the break of dawn and the fall of dusk. As a young man, I worked in Chicago communities where many found dignity and peace in their Muslim faith.

As a student of history, I also know civilization's debt to Islam. It was Islam - at places like Al-Azhar University - that carried the light of learning through so many centuries, paving the way for Europe's Renaissance and Enlightenment. It was innovation in Muslim communities that developed the order of algebra; our magnetic compass and tools of navigation; our mastery of pens and printing; our understanding of how disease spreads and how it can be healed. Islamic culture has given us majestic arches and soaring spires; timeless poetry and cherished music; elegant calligraphy and places of peaceful contemplation. And throughout history, Islam has demonstrated through words and deeds the possibilities of religious tolerance and racial equality.

I know, too, that Islam has always been a part of America's story. The first nation to recognize my country was Morocco. In signing the Treaty of Tripoli in 1796, our second President John Adams wrote, "The United States has in itself no character of enmity against the laws, religion or tranquility of Muslims." And since our founding, American Muslims have enriched the United States. They have fought in our wars, served in government, stood for civil rights, started businesses, taught at our Universities, excelled in our sports arenas, won Nobel Prizes, built our tallest building, and lit the Olympic Torch. And when the first Muslim-American was recently elected to Congress, he took the oath to defend our Constitution using the same Holy Koran that one of our Founding Fathers - Thomas Jefferson - kept in his personal library.

So I have known Islam on three continents before coming to the region where it was first revealed. That experience guides my conviction that partnership between America and Islam must be based on what Islam is, not what it isn't. And I consider it part of my responsibility as President of the United States to fight against negative stereotypes of Islam wherever they appear.

But that same principle must apply to Muslim perceptions of America. Just as Muslims do not fit a crude stereotype, America is not the crude stereotype of a self-interested empire. The United States has been one of the greatest sources of progress that the world has ever known. We were born out of revolution against an empire. We were founded upon the ideal that all are created equal, and we have shed blood and struggled for centuries to give meaning to those words - within our borders, and around the world. We are shaped by every culture, drawn from every end of the Earth, and dedicated to a simple concept: E pluribus unum: "Out of many, one."

Much has been made of the fact that an African-American with the name Barack Hussein Obama could be elected President. But my personal story is not so unique. The dream of opportunity for all people has not come true for everyone in America, but its promise exists for all who come to our shores - that includes nearly seven million American Muslims in our country today who enjoy incomes and education that are higher than average.

Moreover, freedom in America is indivisible from the freedom to practice one's religion. That is why there is a mosque in every state of our union, and over 1,200 mosques within our borders. That is why the U.S. government has gone to court to protect the right of women and girls to wear the hijab, and to punish those who would deny it.

So let there be no doubt: Islam is a part of America. And I believe that America holds within her the truth that regardless of race, religion, or station in life, all of us share common aspirations - to live in peace and security; to get an education and to work with dignity; to love our families, our communities, and our God. These things we share. This is the hope of all humanity.

Of course, recognizing our common humanity is only the beginning of our task. Words alone cannot meet the needs of our people. These needs will be met only if we act boldly in the years ahead; and if we understand that the challenges we face are shared, and our failure to meet them will hurt us all.

For we have learned from recent experience that when a financial system weakens in one country, prosperity is hurt everywhere. When a new flu infects one human being, all are at risk. When one nation pursues a nuclear weapon, the risk of nuclear attack rises for all nations. When violent extremists operate in one stretch of mountains, people are endangered across an ocean. And when innocents in Bosnia and Darfur are slaughtered, that is a stain on our collective conscience. That is what it means to share this world in the 21st century. That is the responsibility we have to one another as human beings.

This is a difficult responsibility to embrace. For human history has often been a record of nations and tribes subjugating one another to serve their own interests. Yet in this new age, such attitudes are self-defeating. Given our interdependence, any world order that elevates one nation or group of people over another will inevitably fail. So whatever we think of the past, we must not be prisoners of it. Our problems must be dealt with through partnership; progress must be shared.

That does not mean we should ignore sources of tension. Indeed, it suggests the opposite: we must face these tensions squarely. And so in that spirit, let me speak as clearly and plainly as I can about some specific issues that I believe we must finally confront together.

The first issue that we have to confront is violent extremism in all of its forms.

In Ankara, I made clear that America is not - and never will be - at war with Islam. We will, however, relentlessly confront violent extremists who pose a grave threat to our security. Because we reject the same thing that people of all faiths reject: the killing of innocent men, women, and children. And it is my first duty as President to protect the American people.

The situation in Afghanistan demonstrates America's goals, and our need to work together. Over seven years ago, the United States pursued al Qaeda and the Taliban with broad international support. We did not go by choice, we went because of necessity. I am aware that some question or justify the events of 9/11. But let us be clear: al Qaeda killed nearly 3,000 people on that day. The victims were innocent men, women and children from America and many other nations who had done nothing to harm anybody. And yet Al Qaeda chose to ruthlessly murder these people, claimed credit for the attack, and even now states their determination to kill on a massive scale. They have affiliates in many countries and are trying to expand their reach. These are not opinions to be debated; these are facts to be dealt with.

Make no mistake: we do not want to keep our troops in Afghanistan. We seek no military bases there. It is agonizing for America to lose our young men and women. It is costly and politically difficult to continue this conflict. We would gladly bring every single one of our troops home if we could be confident that there were not violent extremists in Afghanistan and Pakistan determined to kill as many Americans as they possibly can. But that is not yet the case.

That's why we're partnering with a coalition of forty-six countries. And despite the costs involved, America's commitment will not weaken. Indeed, none of us should tolerate these extremists. They have killed in many countries. They have killed people of different faiths - more than any other, they have killed Muslims. Their actions are irreconcilable with the rights of human beings, the progress of nations, and with Islam. The Holy Koran teaches that whoever kills an innocent, it is as if he has killed all mankind; and whoever saves a person, it is as if he has saved all mankind. The enduring faith of over a billion people is so much bigger than the narrow hatred of a few. Islam is not part of the problem in combating violent extremism - it is an important part of promoting peace.

We also know that military power alone is not going to solve the problems in Afghanistan and Pakistan. That is why we plan to invest $1.5 billion each year over the next five years to partner with Pakistanis to build schools and hospitals, roads and businesses, and hundreds of millions to help those who have been displaced. And that is why we are providing more than $2.8 billion to help Afghans develop their economy and deliver services that people depend upon.

Let me also address the issue of Iraq. Unlike Afghanistan, Iraq was a war of choice that provoked strong differences in my country and around the world. Although I believe that the Iraqi people are ultimately better off without the tyranny of Saddam Hussein, I also believe that events in Iraq have reminded America of the need to use diplomacy and build international consensus to resolve our problems whenever possible. Indeed, we can recall the words of Thomas Jefferson, who said: "I hope that our wisdom will grow with our power, and teach us that the less we use our power the greater it will be."

Today, America has a dual responsibility: to help Iraq forge a better future - and to leave Iraq to Iraqis. I have made it clear to the Iraqi people that we pursue no bases, and no claim on their territory or resources. Iraq's sovereignty is its own. That is why I ordered the removal of our combat brigades by next August. That is why we will honor our agreement with Iraq's democratically-elected government to remove combat troops from Iraqi cities by July, and to remove all our troops from Iraq by 2012. We will help Iraq train its Security Forces and develop its economy. But we will support a secure and united Iraq as a partner, and never as a patron.

And finally, just as America can never tolerate violence by extremists, we must never alter our principles. 9/11 was an enormous trauma to our country. The fear and anger that it provoked was understandable, but in some cases, it led us to act contrary to our ideals. We are taking concrete actions to change course. I have unequivocally prohibited the use of torture by the United States, and I have ordered the prison at Guantanamo Bay closed by early next year.

So America will defend itself respectful of the sovereignty of nations and the rule of law. And we will do so in partnership with Muslim communities which are also threatened. The sooner the extremists are isolated and unwelcome in Muslim communities, the sooner we will all be safer.

The second major source of tension that we need to discuss is the situation between Israelis, Palestinians and the Arab world.

America's strong bonds with Israel are well known. This bond is unbreakable. It is based upon cultural and historical ties, and the recognition that the aspiration for a Jewish homeland is rooted in a tragic history that cannot be denied.

Around the world, the Jewish people were persecuted for centuries, and anti-Semitism in Europe culminated in an unprecedented Holocaust. Tomorrow, I will visit Buchenwald, which was part of a network of camps where Jews were enslaved, tortured, shot and gassed to death by the Third Reich. Six million Jews were killed - more than the entire Jewish population of Israel today. Denying that fact is baseless, ignorant, and hateful. Threatening Israel with destruction - or repeating vile stereotypes about Jews - is deeply wrong, and only serves to evoke in the minds of Israelis this most painful of memories while preventing the peace that the people of this region deserve.

On the other hand, it is also undeniable that the Palestinian people - Muslims and Christians - have suffered in pursuit of a homeland. For more than sixty years they have endured the pain of dislocation. Many wait in refugee camps in the West Bank, Gaza, and neighboring lands for a life of peace and security that they have never been able to lead. They endure the daily humiliations - large and small - that come with occupation. So let there be no doubt: the situation for the Palestinian people is intolerable. America will not turn our backs on the legitimate Palestinian aspiration for dignity, opportunity, and a state of their own.

For decades, there has been a stalemate: two peoples with legitimate aspirations, each with a painful history that makes compromise elusive. It is easy to point fingers - for Palestinians to point to the displacement brought by Israel's founding, and for Israelis to point to the constant hostility and attacks throughout its history from within its borders as well as beyond. But if we see this conflict only from one side or the other, then we will be blind to the truth: the only resolution is for the aspirations of both sides to be met through two states, where Israelis and Palestinians each live in peace and security.

That is in Israel's interest, Palestine's interest, America's interest, and the world's interest. That is why I intend to personally pursue this outcome with all the patience that the task requires. The obligations that the parties have agreed to under the Road Map are clear. For peace to come, it is time for them - and all of us - to live up to our responsibilities.

Palestinians must abandon violence. Resistance through violence and killing is wrong and does not succeed. For centuries, black people in America suffered the lash of the whip as slaves and the humiliation of segregation. But it was not violence that won full and equal rights. It was a peaceful and determined insistence upon the ideals at the center of America's founding. This same story can be told by people from South Africa to South Asia; from Eastern Europe to Indonesia. It's a story with a simple truth: that violence is a dead end. It is a sign of neither courage nor power to shoot rockets at sleeping children, or to blow up old women on a bus. That is not how moral authority is claimed; that is how it is surrendered.

Now is the time for Palestinians to focus on what they can build. The Palestinian Authority must develop its capacity to govern, with institutions that serve the needs of its people. Hamas does have support among some Palestinians, but they also have responsibilities. To play a role in fulfilling Palestinian aspirations, and to unify the Palestinian people, Hamas must put an end to violence, recognize past agreements, and recognize Israel's right to exist.

At the same time, Israelis must acknowledge that just as Israel's right to exist cannot be denied, neither can Palestine's. The United States does not accept the legitimacy of continued Israeli settlements. This construction violates previous agreements and undermines efforts to achieve peace. It is time for these settlements to stop.

Israel must also live up to its obligations to ensure that Palestinians can live, and work, and develop their society. And just as it devastates Palestinian families, the continuing humanitarian crisis in Gaza does not serve Israel's security; neither does the continuing lack of opportunity in the West Bank. Progress in the daily lives of the Palestinian people must be part of a road to peace, and Israel must take concrete steps to enable such progress.

Finally, the Arab States must recognize that the Arab Peace Initiative was an important beginning, but not the end of their responsibilities. The Arab-Israeli conflict should no longer be used to distract the people of Arab nations from other problems. Instead, it must be a cause for action to help the Palestinian people develop the institutions that will sustain their state; to recognize Israel's legitimacy; and to choose progress over a self-defeating focus on the past.

America will align our policies with those who pursue peace, and say in public what we say in private to Israelis and Palestinians and Arabs. We cannot impose peace. But privately, many Muslims recognize that Israel will not go away. Likewise, many Israelis recognize the need for a Palestinian state. It is time for us to act on what everyone knows to be true.

Too many tears have flowed. Too much blood has been shed. All of us have a responsibility to work for the day when the mothers of Israelis and Palestinians can see their children grow up without fear; when the Holy Land of three great faiths is the place of peace that God intended it to be; when Jerusalem is a secure and lasting home for Jews and Christians and Muslims, and a place for all of the children of Abraham to mingle peacefully together as in the story of Isra, when Moses, Jesus, and Mohammed (peace be upon them) joined in prayer.

The third source of tension is our shared interest in the rights and responsibilities of nations on nuclear weapons.

This issue has been a source of tension between the United States and the Islamic Republic of Iran. For many years, Iran has defined itself in part by its opposition to my country, and there is indeed a tumultuous history between us. In the middle of the Cold War, the United States played a role in the overthrow of a democratically-elected Iranian government. Since the Islamic Revolution, Iran has played a role in acts of hostage-taking and violence against U.S. troops and civilians. This history is well known. Rather than remain trapped in the past, I have made it clear to Iran's leaders and people that my country is prepared to move forward. The question, now, is not what Iran is against, but rather what future it wants to build.

It will be hard to overcome decades of mistrust, but we will proceed with courage, rectitude and resolve. There will be many issues to discuss between our two countries, and we are willing to move forward without preconditions on the basis of mutual respect. But it is clear to all concerned that when it comes to nuclear weapons, we have reached a decisive point. This is not simply about America's interests. It is about preventing a nuclear arms race in the Middle East that could lead this region and the world down a hugely dangerous path.

I understand those who protest that some countries have weapons that others do not. No single nation should pick and choose which nations hold nuclear weapons. That is why I strongly reaffirmed America's commitment to seek a world in which no nations hold nuclear weapons. And any nation - including Iran - should have the right to access peaceful nuclear power if it complies with its responsibilities under the nuclear Non-Proliferation Treaty. That commitment is at the core of the Treaty, and it must be kept for all who fully abide by it. And I am hopeful that all countries in the region can share in this goal.

The fourth issue that I will address is democracy.

I know there has been controversy about the promotion of democracy in recent years, and much of this controversy is connected to the war in Iraq. So let me be clear: no system of government can or should be imposed upon one nation by any other.

That does not lessen my commitment, however, to governments that reflect the will of the people. Each nation gives life to this principle in its own way, grounded in the traditions of its own people. America does not presume to know what is best for everyone, just as we would not presume to pick the outcome of a peaceful election. But I do have an unyielding belief that all people yearn for certain things: the ability to speak your mind and have a say in how you are governed; confidence in the rule of law and the equal administration of justice; government that is transparent and doesn't steal from the people; the freedom to live as you choose. Those are not just American ideas, they are human rights, and that is why we will support them everywhere.

There is no straight line to realize this promise. But this much is clear: governments that protect these rights are ultimately more stable, successful and secure. Suppressing ideas never succeeds in making them go away. America respects the right of all peaceful and law-abiding voices to be heard around the world, even if we disagree with them. And we will welcome all elected, peaceful governments - provided they govern with respect for all their people.

This last point is important because there are some who advocate for democracy only when they are out of power; once in power, they are ruthless in suppressing the rights of others. No matter where it takes hold, government of the people and by the people sets a single standard for all who hold power: you must maintain your power through consent, not coercion; you must respect the rights of minorities, and participate with a spirit of tolerance and compromise; you must place the interests of your people and the legitimate workings of the political process above your party. Without these ingredients, elections alone do not make true democracy.

The fifth issue that we must address together is religious freedom.

Islam has a proud tradition of tolerance. We see it in the history of Andalusia and Cordoba during the Inquisition. I saw it firsthand as a child in Indonesia, where devout Christians worshiped freely in an overwhelmingly Muslim country. That is the spirit we need today. People in every country should be free to choose and live their faith based upon the persuasion of the mind, heart, and soul. This tolerance is essential for religion to thrive, but it is being challenged in many different ways.

Among some Muslims, there is a disturbing tendency to measure one's own faith by the rejection of another's. The richness of religious diversity must be upheld - whether it is for Maronites in Lebanon or the Copts in Egypt. And fault lines must be closed among Muslims as well, as the divisions between Sunni and Shia have led to tragic violence, particularly in Iraq.

Freedom of religion is central to the ability of peoples to live together. We must always examine the ways in which we protect it. For instance, in the United States, rules on charitable giving have made it harder for Muslims to fulfill their religious obligation. That is why I am committed to working with American Muslims to ensure that they can fulfill zakat.

Likewise, it is important for Western countries to avoid impeding Muslim citizens from practicing religion as they see fit - for instance, by dictating what clothes a Muslim woman should wear. We cannot disguise hostility towards any religion behind the pretence of liberalism.

Indeed, faith should bring us together. That is why we are forging service projects in America that bring together Christians, Muslims, and Jews. That is why we welcome efforts like Saudi Arabian King Abdullah's Interfaith dialogue and Turkey's leadership in the Alliance of Civilizations. Around the world, we can turn dialogue into Interfaith service, so bridges between peoples lead to action - whether it is combating malaria in Africa, or providing relief after a natural disaster.

The sixth issue that I want to address is women's rights.

I know there is debate about this issue. I reject the view of some in the West that a woman who chooses to cover her hair is somehow less equal, but I do believe that a woman who is denied an education is denied equality. And it is no coincidence that countries where women are well-educated are far more likely to be prosperous.

Now let me be clear: issues of women's equality are by no means simply an issue for Islam. In Turkey, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Indonesia, we have seen Muslim-majority countries elect a woman to lead. Meanwhile, the struggle for women's equality continues in many aspects of American life, and in countries around the world.

Our daughters can contribute just as much to society as our sons, and our common prosperity will be advanced by allowing all humanity - men and women - to reach their full potential. I do not believe that women must make the same choices as men in order to be equal, and I respect those women who choose to live their lives in traditional roles. But it should be their choice. That is why the United States will partner with any Muslim-majority country to support expanded literacy for girls, and to help young women pursue employment through micro-financing that helps people live their dreams.

Finally, I want to discuss economic development and opportunity.

I know that for many, the face of globalization is contradictory. The Internet and television can bring knowledge and information, but also offensive sexuality and mindless violence. Trade can bring new wealth and opportunities, but also huge disruptions and changing communities. In all nations - including my own - this change can bring fear. Fear that because of modernity we will lose of control over our economic choices, our politics, and most importantly our identities - those things we most cherish about our communities, our families, our traditions, and our faith.

But I also know that human progress cannot be denied. There need not be contradiction between development and tradition. Countries like Japan and South Korea grew their economies while maintaining distinct cultures. The same is true for the astonishing progress within Muslim-majority countries from Kuala Lumpur to Dubai. In ancient times and in our times, Muslim communities have been at the forefront of innovation and education.

This is important because no development strategy can be based only upon what comes out of the ground, nor can it be sustained while young people are out of work. Many Gulf States have enjoyed great wealth as a consequence of oil, and some are beginning to focus it on broader development. But all of us must recognize that education and innovation will be the currency of the 21st century, and in too many Muslim communities there remains underinvestment in these areas. I am emphasizing such investments within my country. And while America in the past has focused on oil and gas in this part of the world, we now seek a broader engagement.

On education, we will expand exchange programs, and increase scholarships, like the one that brought my father to America, while encouraging more Americans to study in Muslim communities. And we will match promising Muslim students with internships in America; invest in on-line learning for teachers and children around the world; and create a new online network, so a teenager in Kansas can communicate instantly with a teenager in Cairo.

On economic development, we will create a new corps of business volunteers to partner with counterparts in Muslim-majority countries. And I will host a Summit on Entrepreneurship this year to identify how we can deepen ties between business leaders, foundations and social entrepreneurs in the United States and Muslim communities around the world.

On science and technology, we will launch a new fund to support technological development in Muslim-majority countries, and to help transfer ideas to the marketplace so they can create jobs. We will open centers of scientific excellence in Africa, the Middle East and Southeast Asia, and appoint new Science Envoys to collaborate on programs that develop new sources of energy, create green jobs, digitize records, clean water, and grow new crops. And today I am announcing a new global effort with the Organization of the Islamic Conference to eradicate polio. And we will also expand partnerships with Muslim communities to promote child and maternal health.

All these things must be done in partnership. Americans are ready to join with citizens and governments; community organizations, religious leaders, and businesses in Muslim communities around the world to help our people pursue a better life.

The issues that I have described will not be easy to address. But we have a responsibility to join together on behalf of the world we seek - a world where extremists no longer threaten our people, and American troops have come home; a world where Israelis and Palestinians are each secure in a state of their own, and nuclear energy is used for peaceful purposes; a world where governments serve their citizens, and the rights of all God's children are respected. Those are mutual interests. That is the world we seek. But we can only achieve it together.

I know there are many - Muslim and non-Muslim - who question whether we can forge this new beginning. Some are eager to stoke the flames of division, and to stand in the way of progress. Some suggest that it isn't worth the effort - that we are fated to disagree, and civilizations are doomed to clash. Many more are simply skeptical that real change can occur. There is so much fear, so much mistrust. But if we choose to be bound by the past, we will never move forward. And I want to particularly say this to young people of every faith, in every country - you, more than anyone, have the ability to remake this world.

All of us share this world for but a brief moment in time. The question is whether we spend that time focused on what pushes us apart, or whether we commit ourselves to an effort - a sustained effort - to find common ground, to focus on the future we seek for our children, and to respect the dignity of all human beings.

It is easier to start wars than to end them. It is easier to blame others than to look inward; to see what is different about someone than to find the things we share. But we should choose the right path, not just the easy path. There is also one rule that lies at the heart of every religion - that we do unto others as we would have them do unto us. This truth transcends nations and peoples - a belief that isn't new; that isn't black or white or brown; that isn't Christian, or Muslim or Jew. It's a belief that pulsed in the cradle of civilization, and that still beats in the heart of billions. It's a faith in other people, and it's what brought me here today.

We have the power to make the world we seek, but only if we have the courage to make a new beginning, keeping in mind what has been written.

The Holy Koran tells us, "O mankind! We have created you male and a female; and we have made you into nations and tribes so that you may know one another."

The Talmud tells us: "The whole of the Torah is for the purpose of promoting peace."

The Holy Bible tells us, "Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God."

The people of the world can live together in peace. We know that is God's vision. Now, that must be our work here on Earth. Thank you. And may God's peace be upon you.

Friday, May 29, 2009

هو انا من عصر السينما الصامتة؟

البوست ده باكتبه وان مبؤئة من اللى بيحصل علشان كده بالعربى العامى كمان
انا ماليش فى التليفزيون ولا فى الافلام او البرامج العربى ... انا اللى باجيبه لنفسى
امبارح باتعشى وحاطه الجرنان جنبى باقلب فيه (ايوة باعمل الحاجتين فى وقت واحد) وكالعادة التليفزيون مفتوح خلفية صوتية كده
انا مش باتفرج عليه انا كنت مركزة فى الجرنان
وحد غلط وقال لى (الريموت جنبك هاتى البيت بيتك) وماله .. برنامج برضه محترم وبيقدمه محمود سعد راجل محترم وعلى القناة الحكومية الرسمية قناة محترمة برضه
ولما قللبت كان فى اللحظة اللى بيعلن فيها محمود سعد خبر حيهز الدنيا وينسى الناس طوابير العيش وانفلونزا الخنازير واعدام هشام طلعت مصطفى
الخبر الجبار ده هو انه حيستضيف ابطال فيلم دكان شحاتة
عادى جدا وايه يعنى ... بتحصل
مذيع وممثلين وحركات والفيلم رائع والممثلين هايلين والفيلم ده ماحصلش
وانا فى عقلى باقول انا مالى كلها دقايق واقوم اسيب الاوضة دى خالص
لكن قبل ما اعمل كده ابتديت الفقرة المميزة المعجزة الهايلة اللى ماحصلتش
مش ناوية اركز قوى فى التفاهات اللى سمعتها من طقم الفيلم لانه فعلا كلام يجيب الضغط وعسر الهضم
المهم اللى شالنى وجنننى وخلينى اتخض من اللى باسمعه هو كلام المذيع المحترم محمود سعد وهو بيلعلع ويقول على الممثلة انها "مُزة" وعلى الممثلين انهم "صايعين تمثيل" ..... نركز مع بعضينا تانى
برنامج موجه للأسرة كلها على القناة الحكومية الرسمية بيتقال فيها الكلام ده
مش كفاية الراجل اللى بيعلم البصبصة بتاع "موز .. موز" اهو على الاقل على قناة خاصة طالع يقرفنا فيها بفلوسه
لكن القناة الرسمية الحكومية بيتكلموا فيها كده
يا جماعة حد يفهمنى هو مش الكلام ده كان عيب ولا هما غيروه ولا ايه؟
طب مش حد يقول
زمان كانت الوالدة بتزعقلنا لما نقول الكلام ده .. طب ايه بقى؟ كانت بتخنقنا وخلاص
والكلام ده جميل وفل الفل واحنا اللى من عصر السينما الصامتة؟
يا جدعان حد يفهمنى
انا مش باتكلم من منطلق دينى وحركات و"لا تخرج كلمة ردية من افواهكم بل كل ما كان صالحا للبنيان حسب الحاجة كي يعطي نعمة للسامعين (اف 4 : 29)
"
انا مش قصدى كده خالص
انا باتكلم من منطلق اجتماعى اخلاقى .. ذوق حس
ينفع الكلام ده يتقال فى الاعلام الموجه للأسرة ويسمعه الصغيرين قبل الكبار؟

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

اسكندرانى فى جوجل


اسكندرانى فى جوجل
احمد جاب الله
مهندس الفريق الاساسي لجودة البحث بشركة “جوجل
عقبالنا يارب ان شالله فراشين فى جوجل

Monday, May 11, 2009

weekend amusement


in weekends we (my sister and I) try to do something useful, so this week we went to Alexandria Museum

the place is a big white palace once belonged to a rich Alexandrian and later the USA embassy

you can easily notice the beauty of the old palace and the marvelous architecture techniques used to build it

the museum is divided into 3 sections:
Pharonic periods
Greek and Romain periods
Coptic, Islamic and modern periods
each occupy a whole floor of the palace

the amazing thing about the museum is the tomb:
they used the underground flour for the pharonic periods and under (the underground) there's a space used to be a wine basement, they turned to a pharanoic tomb

it's sooooo creepy, honestly: soft lighting, dark wall painting, mummy, anobees
my sister was scared to death
(LOOOOOOOL, and this of course was amusement to me )

some pieces are catching: السنكسار the book of saints in the coptic part, face made by mosaic in the greek/ romain part
Ekhnaton head, Hatshebsot head, warrior shield from the islamic part, a lady handbag made of gold (ENTIRELY) from the modern era was owned by the royal family


something funny happened and i have to share it:
in the Coptic part, were some pieced (شواهد قبور)
where a man or a woman stands praying between 2 pahraonic gods (horas & anobees) i guess
so seeing this was too provoking for me:
"this is absurd, is horus and anaboees part of the christian believes to put these pieces here!! they must found no place to put these pieces so they just put it any where thinking that no one will care, but this is misrepresent the believe, this is unacceptable, .......... so on"
my sister was "kabary dema3'k"
but i didn't

there was a tour guide, Egyptian walking with a group of tourists, after finished she sat down on the stairs giving them sometime to take pictures, i went to her and said: excuse me, i was wondering about some pieces in the coptic section, the man praying with anobees and horus, why?

she is very intelligent woman and immediately understand what i was getting at so she said: ahh you mean (شواهد القبور), you are right it's not Christianity to have anobees and horus, but some people when the converted to Christianity they kept their old traditions with them for a while, although they didn't believe in horus and anobees any more they were costumed to put their pictures in the tomb with them, keeping the old tradition faded by time of course and later we can't find similar pieces

this was a great answer, she respected my believe, explained the matter in a very scientific and acceptable manner. i said thank you very much smiled and walked away

my sister was "can you calm now and stop making a fuss from everything"
i'm glad to ask the question else i would walk away feeling bad about the whole situation, but i'm not glad of myself because i assumed things that aren't real in a fast stupid way

Zahir Paulo Coelho


Reading a story by Paulo Coelho is like going to a journey to Sweden to end up in China

he always use this pattern, at the first few pages he declares that he's in point "A" and he want the novel to end up in point "B", in every page and line he stress on this fact. by the end of the story the reader is completely convinced and prepared to be in point "B" but at this point the reader discover that point "B" in fact is point "C" and that there's no such thing as point "B"

a great example is elZahir (الظهير)
which is an arabic word means the one who's behind and from time to time jump to the front and then move to the background again

the story is about a husband who's a famous writer and a wife reporter, both successful happy
suddenly the wife disappear, at first he thought she was killed or kidnapped, but day by day he get more and more to understand that his wife disappeared by her own free will and that she is waiting for him to find her and join her where she's
where he should find out, and he should accept the fact that even if he did find her she may be doesn't want him anymore.

so reading the story you'll think it's about a chase of evidence and clues to find out the wife, but this isn't true the story is about the husband and how in searching for his wife he discovered himself more and more
understand his life and emotions, at the end it's not about finding the wife but finding himself
I'll not say the end of it, so who didn't read it have fun do it
but at the end everything was revealed to him: his wife, his life and himself

something in the end bothered me too much (when you read it you'll understand) but that's how the writer thought it should end his story
this is one of the best story i've ever read, because everyone has his/her own zahir

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Global warming awareness


Global warming awareness

I think it's time for us who are alexandrians to start acting seriously to protect our land
Alexandria and the delta are in great danger, and some expect that this land will be totally covered by water after 2 decades
when we will do something about?

Thursday, May 7, 2009

The Five Love Languages


The Five Love Languages


It's an old book i read it in arabic years ago but to use in sunday school,
it simply says that people use usually 5 languages to express their love to the others (this is valid on all kind of relationships)
1- Words of Affirmation
2- Quality Time
3- Receiving Gifts
4- Acts of Service
5- Physical Touch
everyone of us like to have the 5 (everyone likes to hear good word about himself, spend time with loved people, to receive gifts, like to be helped around his house or even life, and of course like to be touched in a way that means love not harassment)
But there's always a specific language that he/she preferred more

and here is the problem, when i only speak the language of gifts and my friend prefer the quality time language, my friend will feel unsatisfied and maybe not loved at all
while i'm spending money and time searching for the most expensive most elegant gift my friend will see it only as an object not as a translation of friendship or love, if i spend half the time i took to collect the gift with my friend she'll be happy and feel connected with me and most of all loved

why i'm saying this right now?
because suddenly i'm surrounded with bad stories, people need help and support and i keep telling the people that sometimes the help is just in spending some time talking in the phone or paying a quick visit
it doesn't have to be big thing or parties, just be there, just speak the right language
we only talk the language that we prefer, not the others prefer. and then get surprised when the others don't understand what we are saying.
it's like a french guy speaks to a Japanese guy.
when i remember this book, i understand some of my friends acts
REMEMBER to speak with your friends the language that he/she prefers NOT YOUR LANGUAGE

وزارة الأوقاف تؤجر الشقق والداخلية تبيع العيش

كل واحد فاز بجائزة أو نجح فى حل الكلمات المتقاطعة نعرض عليه المنصب.. نفس العقلية المصرية التى تقدم المنصب لصاحب ثورة أو صاحب قرار أو صاحب جائزة أو حتى صاحب صاحبه دون نضال سياسى طويل أو انتخابات حقيقية.. لذلك عندنا البرلمان يناقش الجلابية والحجاب، بينما الأزهر يراقب الأعمال الأدبية، والثقافة تستخرج تراخيص الراقصات، ووزارة الأوقاف تؤجر الشقق، والداخلية تبيع العيش، والبترول تستكشف المواهب الكروية وهى نفس العقلية التى جعلتنا نكتشف حجر رشيد محمد رشيد ونرشحه للوزارة..
جلال عامر فى المصرى اليوم

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Voir un ami pleurer

MY MOOD EXACTLY


Artist: Lara Fabian
Song: Voir un ami pleurer
Album: En Toute Intimité


Bien sûr il y a les guerres d'Irlande
Et les peuplades sans musique
Bien sûr tout ce manque de tendres
Il n'y a plus d'Amérique
Bien sûr l'argent n'a pas d'odeur
Mais pas d'odeur vous monte au nez
Bien sûr on marche sur les fleurs
Mais voir un ami pleurer !

Bien sûr il y a nos défaites
Et puis la mort qui est tout au bout
Nos corps inclinent déjà la tête
Étonnés d'être encore debout
Bien sûr les femmes infidèles
Et les oiseaux assassinés
Bien sûr nos cœurs perdent leurs ailes
Mais mais voir un ami pleurer !

Bien sûr ces villes épuisées
Par ces enfants de cinquante ans
Notre impuissance à les aider
Et nos amours qui ont mal aux dents
Bien sûr le temps qui va trop vite
Ces métro remplis de noyés
La vérité qui nous évite
Mais voir un ami pleurer !

Bien sûr nos miroirs sont intègres
Ni le courage d'être juifs
Ni l'élégance d'être nègres
On se croit mèche on n'est que suif
Et tous ces hommes qui sont nos frères
Tellement qu'on n'est plus étonnés
Que par amour ils nous lacèrent
Mais voir un ami pleurer !

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Gandhi’s Fundamentals for Changing the World


Gandhi’s Top 10 Fundamentals for Changing the World

1. Change yourself.

“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”

“As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world - that is the myth of the atomic age - as in being able to remake ourselves.”

If you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change. Not only because you are now viewing your environment through new lenses of thoughts and emotions but also because the change within can allow you to take action in ways you wouldn’t have – or maybe even have thought about – while stuck in your old thought patterns.

And the problem with changing your outer world without changing yourself is that you will still be you when you reach that change you have strived for. You will still have your flaws, anger, negativity, self-sabotaging tendencies etc. intact.

And so in this new situation you will still not find what you hoped for since your mind is still seeping with that negative stuff. And if you get more without having some insight into and distance from your ego it may grow more powerful. Since your ego loves to divide things, to find enemies and to create separation it may start to try to create even more problems and conflicts in your life and world.

2. You are in control.

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”

What you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may be a “normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s mostly just all it is.

You can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much everything. You don’t have to freak out, overreact of even react in a negative way. Perhaps not every time or instantly. Sometimes a knee-jerk reaction just goes off. Or an old thought habit kicks in.

And as you realize that no-one outside of yourself can actually control how you feel you can start to incorporate this thinking into your daily life and develop it as a thought habit. A habit that you can grow stronger and stronger over time. Doing this makes life a whole lot easier and more pleasurable.

3. Forgive and let it go.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

“An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”

Fighting evil with evil won’t help anyone. And as said in the previous tip, you always choose how to react to something. When you can incorporate such a thought habit more and more into your life then you can react in a way that is more useful to you and others.

You realize that forgiving and letting go of the past will do you and the people in your world a great service. And spending your time in some negative memory won’t help you after you have learned the lessons you can learn from that experience. You’ll probably just cause yourself more suffering and paralyze yourself from taking action in this present moment.

If you don’t forgive then you let the past and another person to control how you feel. By forgiving you release yourself from those bonds. And then you can focus totally on, for instance, the next point.

4. Without action you aren’t going anywhere.

“An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”

Without taking action very little will be done. However, taking action can be hard and difficult. There can be much inner resistance.

And so you may resort to preaching, as Gandhi says. Or reading and studying endlessly. And feeling like you are moving forward. But getting little or no practical results in real life.

So, to really get where you want to go and to really understand yourself and your world you need to practice. Books can mostly just bring you knowledge. You have to take action and translate that knowledge into results and understanding.

You can check out a few effective tips to overcome this problem in How to Take More Action: 9 Powerful Tips. Or you can move on to the next point for more on the best tip for taking more action that I have found so far.

5. Take care of this moment.

“I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”

The best way that I have found to overcome the inner resistance that often stops us from taking action is to stay in the present as much as possible and to be accepting.

Why? Well, when you are in the present moment you don’t worry about the next moment that you can’t control anyway. And the resistance to action that comes from you imagining negative future consequences - or reflecting on past failures - of your actions loses its power. And so it becomes easier to both take action and to keep your focus on this moment and perform better.

Have a look at 8 Ways to Return to the Present Moment for tips on how quickly step into the now. And remember that reconnecting with and staying in the now is a mental habit - a sort of muscle - that you grow. Over time it becomes more powerful and makes it easier to slip into the present moment.

6. Everyone is human.

“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”

“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”

When you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have produced extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different. So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter who they are.

And I think it’s important to remember that we are all human and prone to make mistakes. Holding people to unreasonable standards will only create more unnecessary conflicts in your world and negativity within you.

It’s also important to remember this to avoid falling into the pretty useless habit of beating yourself up over mistakes that you have made. And instead be able to see with clarity where you went wrong and what you can learn from your mistake. And then try again.

7. Persist.

“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”

Be persistent. In time the opposition around you will fade and fall away. And your inner resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies that want to hold you back and keep you like you have always been will grow weaker.

Find what you really like to do. Then you’ll find the inner motivation to keep going, going and going. You can also find a lot of useful tips on how keep your motivation up in How to Get Out of a Motivational Slump and 25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself.

One reason Gandhi was so successful with his method of non-violence was because he and his followers were so persistent. They just didn’t give up.

Success or victory will seldom come as quickly as you would have liked it to. I think one of the reasons people don’t get what they want is simply because they give up too soon. The time they think an achievement will require isn’t the same amount of time it usually takes to achieve that goal. This faulty belief partly comes from the world we live in. A world full of magic pill solutions where advertising continually promises us that we can lose a lot of weight or earn a ton of money in just 30 days. You can read more about this in One Big Mistake a Whole Lot of People Make.

Finally, one useful tip to keep your persistence going is to listen to Gandhi’s third quote in this article and keep a sense of humor. It can lighten things up at the toughest of times.

8. See the good in people and help them.

I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.”

“Man becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the welfare of his fellow-men.”

“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.”

There is pretty much always something good in people. And things that may not be so good. But you can choose what things to focus on. And if you want improvement then focusing on the good in people is a useful choice. It also makes life easier for you as your world and relationships become more pleasant and positive.

And when you see the good in people it becomes easier to motivate yourself to be of service to them. By being of service to other people, by giving them value you not only make their lives better. Over time you tend to get what you give. And the people you help may feel more inclined to help other people. And so you, together, create an upward spiral of positive change that grows and becomes stronger.

By strengthening your social skills you can become a more influential person and make this upward spiral even stronger. A few articles that may provide you with useful advice in that department are Do You Make These 10 Mistakes in a Conversation? and Dale Carnegie’s Top 10 Tips for Improving Your Social Skills. Or you can just move on to the next tip.

9. Be congruent, be authentic, be your true self.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”

I think that one of the best tips for improving your social skills is to behave in a congruent manner and communicate in an authentic way. People seem to really like authentic communication. And there is much inner enjoyment to be found when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned. You feel powerful and good about yourself.

When words and thoughts are aligned then that shows through in your communication. Because now you have your voice tonality and body language – some say they are over 90 percent of communication – in alignment with your words.

With these channels in alignment people tend to really listen to what you’re saying. You are communicating without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of phoniness.

Also, if your actions aren’t in alignment with what you’re communicating then you start to hurt your own belief in what you can do. And other people’s belief in you too.

10. Continue to grow and evolve.

”Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.”

You can pretty much always improve your skills, habits or re-evaluate your evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding of yourself and the world.

Sure, you may look inconsistent or like you don’t know what you are doing from time to time. You may have trouble to act congruently or to communicate authentically. But if you don’t then you will, as Gandhi says, drive yourself into a false position. A place where you try to uphold or cling to your old views to appear consistent while you realise within that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place to be. To choose to grow and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take.

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