The Five Love Languages

The Five Love Languages

It's an old book i read it in arabic years ago but to use in sunday school,
it simply says that people use usually 5 languages to express their love to the others (this is valid on all kind of relationships)
1- Words of Affirmation
2- Quality Time
3- Receiving Gifts
4- Acts of Service
5- Physical Touch
everyone of us like to have the 5 (everyone likes to hear good word about himself, spend time with loved people, to receive gifts, like to be helped around his house or even life, and of course like to be touched in a way that means love not harassment)
But there's always a specific language that he/she preferred more

and here is the problem, when i only speak the language of gifts and my friend prefer the quality time language, my friend will feel unsatisfied and maybe not loved at all
while i'm spending money and time searching for the most expensive most elegant gift my friend will see it only as an object not as a translation of friendship or love, if i spend half the time i took to collect the gift with my friend she'll be happy and feel connected with me and most of all loved

why i'm saying this right now?
because suddenly i'm surrounded with bad stories, people need help and support and i keep telling the people that sometimes the help is just in spending some time talking in the phone or paying a quick visit
it doesn't have to be big thing or parties, just be there, just speak the right language
we only talk the language that we prefer, not the others prefer. and then get surprised when the others don't understand what we are saying.
it's like a french guy speaks to a Japanese guy.
when i remember this book, i understand some of my friends acts
REMEMBER to speak with your friends the language that he/she prefers NOT YOUR LANGUAGE